1.8.11
7.4.11
Take Action! 10 Ways to Increase Your Happiness
- Self:( I know who I am, and I like myself)
Happiness is your original nature—it is what you first experienced before you began to identify with a body, a family role, some school grades, your nationality, your business card, your Social Security number and any other labels you keep. True happiness is being faithful to your true nature. The better you know yourself—what it is you love, what inspires you, what you are made of—the happier you will be. When you forget who you are, something very strange happens—you begin to search for happiness!
Happiness is your spiritual DNA. It is what you experience when you accept yourself, when you relax and when you stop neurosing about being a "size zero," about "why he hasn't called" and about "what I should be doing with my life." You will increase your happiness score significantly if you can begin to accept that the happiness you hope "to get" after you find your true partner, get the dream job, buy the ideal home and earn the right money, is already in you.
Joy is the organic state of your soul. It is not something you achieve; it is something you accept. - Relationships :Why it's important to connect with others (My most important relationships get my best attention) .Relationships are the heart of happiness. Social research has found "rich and satisfying relationships" are the only external factors that will move your happiness score from "quite happy" to "very happy." A common mistake we make is to get so busy pursuing happiness that we fail to give our best time, energy and attention to our relationships. Remind yourself daily that happiness is in the connections you make, in the friendships you keep and in the love that exists between others.
If you want to be happy, be a friend. Identify your most important relationships, and think about how you can be a true friend to your partner, to your children, to your parents, to your colleagues, to your clients, etc. Another way to increase your happiness score is to make a conscious commitment to being the most loving person you can possibly be. Your intention to love and be loved is the absolute key to happiness. Love is the most fun you can have with anyone. In the final analysis, there is no difference between happiness and love. - Do what you love for a living( I have a strong sense of purpose, and/or I love my work.) Today's workplaces are a modern tragedy in which too many people go to work without a sense of joy and love. "The biggest mistake people make in life is not trying to make a living at doing what they most enjoy," Malcolm Forbes of Forbes magazine said. In the United States, only 50 percent of employees say they are satisfied with their work. You can increase your happiness score by making your work more purpose-centered. Start with identifying what real success is, what your real value is, how you can be more creative and how you can enjoy yourself more.
The more you can say, "I love my work" and really mean it, the higher your happiness score will be. People who love their work usually feel they are making a significant contribution to a cause they believe in. Reflect, therefore, on what you most want to contribute in your work and in life overall. Remember, you are not here just to find happiness; you are here to extend it. You are inspiration-packed, wisdom-infused, made with love and blessed with talents. Look around today and give what is needed, give what appears to be missing and give what is your joy to give. - Have a good attitude :( I choose my attitude most of the time.)From zero to 10, how happy have you decided to be today? Is your score 5 out of 10, or 2 out of 10 or 8 out of 10, perhaps? Can you find the place in your mind where you have already made a decision about how good today will be, and how good this year will be and how good your life will be? Choice is a powerful thing. More of anything or everything will not make a difference to your happiness score until you consciously choose to be happy. Therefore, set an intention to be happy today. Decide to make today even more enjoyable than you thought it was going to be.
During Be Happy, my 8-week happiness program, I ask my students this question: Could you be even happier even if nothing in the world around you changed? What is your answer: yes or no? In the most recent class, the score was 100 percent for "yes." How could this be? Well, common answers include, "I could choose to accept myself more" and "I could choose to see things differently" and "I could choose to enjoy my life more" and "I could start making smarter choices." The one thing in common all these answers have is choice. Your happiness score rises when you stop chasing happiness and start choosing happiness. - Appreciate your life: (I appreciate my life as it happens.)There are two meta-attitudes that can significantly increase your happiness score. The first is gratitude. The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception to such an extent that it changes the world you see. Before you practice gratitude, you are in the dark and there appears to be very little to be grateful for. Once you begin, a new light dawns, sometimes a brilliant light, a light as bright as heaven itself. Gratitude changes your brain; and it changes the world. The more you practice gratitude, the more you will find to be grateful for.
The real gift of gratitude is the more grateful you are, the more present you become. In the English language, the word "present" has three distinct meanings: "here," "now" and "a gift." This is surely not a coincidence. Practicing gratitude teaches you that the greatest gifts are always available to you here and now! One way to practice gratitude is to start expressing it. Think about who you are truly grateful for in your life. Do you realize how happy they will be when you tell them? Gratitude is double happiness because it blesses both the giver and the receiver. - Let go of your hurt and disappointment: ( I am good at letting go of past hurts and disappointments.)Happiness is easy and natural until you experience your first wound. For this reason, the second meta-attitude that makes such a big difference to your happiness score is forgiveness. You cannot hold onto a grievance and be happy. Why? One reason is you can't be a victim and be happy. Holding onto a grievance is a sign of a mistaken identity. You are not a victim. Also, holding onto a grievance is really a decision to keep suffering. Forgiveness helps you let go and be happy.
Resentment keeps you stuck in the past; forgiveness brings you back to the present. Resentment costs too much, and it doesn't make you happy. Resentment is a ball and chain; forgiveness sets you free again. Forgiveness offers you insurance against premature aging, a blocked heart, an unhealed past and an unhappy future. To increase your happiness score, try this forgiveness prayer:
Dear God, I declare today a day of amnesty, in which I gratefully volunteer to hand in all of my resentments and grievances to You. Please help me to handle well all of the peace that must inevitably follow. Amen. - Do you know how to have fun? :(I know how to have fun, and I do.)To be truly happy, you have to get your head around the idea that circumstances don't matter as much as you think they do. Happiness research studies reveal consistently that most people who score high levels of happiness do not experience markedly better life circumstances. So why are they so happy? Well, one answer is they know how to enjoy their life.
"Most of the time, I don't have very much fun, and the rest of the time I have no fun at all," quipped director Woody Allen. Good humor always has an element of truth in it. We're so preoccupied with the pursuit of happiness that we are in danger of forgetting how to enjoy our lives. We promise ourselves, and each other, that we will enjoy life more after we are happy. Go figure!
Note to self: Remember to enjoy the miracle of existence today. You can increase your happiness score immediately by being more spontaneous today. Disengage the autopilot, switch off the controls, stop being so sensible, issue a friendly restraining order to your superego, and, for God's sake, let yourself have some fun today. - Take care of your health and well-being : (I look after myself and take care of my well-being.)You cannot neglect yourself and find happiness. One of the side effects of chasing happiness is you become estranged from yourself. The quicker you chase, the faster time passes and the more difficult it is to locate yourself in your own life. When you don't stop, you press on in hopes that you will catch up with yourself somewhere down the line. But all the while, you keep leaving yourself behind. Something has to give.
Make some time for yourself today. Check in with yourself. Catch up on your own news. Listen to your heart and to how you really feel. Give yourself some of your own best attention. Stop trying to be strong, and to be positive, and to keep going and simply be honest with yourself. Ask yourself, "What are my needs right now?" And, "How can I be kind to myself today?" In all my years of psychotherapy, I have never met a person who suffered from being too kind to herself.
The better you treat yourself, the better your happiness score will be. - Get in touch with your spirituality : (I know what inspires me, supports me and gives me strength)If you are committed to a spiritual path in your life, you are twice as likely to say you are "very happy," according to psychology research. Spirituality gives you a context for your life that is greater than your ego can see. The ego, which is basically your self-image, is based on an optical delusion of separation. Its outlook is: Everything Good's Outside. A strong spiritual faith helps you to connect to what is real, to what is here now and to what has already been given to you.
A daily spiritual practice that you enjoy doing will help to increase your happiness score. The essential aim of any spiritual practice—be it meditation, prayer, yoga, tai chi, etc.—is to help you remove the blocks to the awareness of the happiness that already exists in the center of you. Spirituality connects you to your "being" so you don't get lost in going, doing and having. It helps you to identify with the idea that the soul is joy, and to realize that you are what you seek. - How do you view happiness?: (I believe happiness is a way of traveling.)Some things never change: Your greatest opportunity for healing and happiness has been, will be, still is, now! Since time began, spiritual teachers have taught their students to "be here and now," to "enjoy the moment" and to "seize the day." And since time began, spiritual students have repeatedly disregarded their teachers' wisdom at first. Like the Prodigal Son, we all eventually return to "now" to find our spiritual home and to find true happiness.
Living in the "not now" is a chief cause of unhappiness, pain and lack. We do it because we fear happiness is somewhere else. The strain of not being present in your own life is simply too great. When you miss out on the present, you miss out on so much. No now; no life. The good news is, however, that it is never too late to be present and to really show up in your life. Your happiness score increases the more present you are in your life.
Truth is here, inspiration is here, love is here,
peace is here, help is here, God is here,
joy is here, because you are.
Source : http://www.oprah.com
You may Take The Happiness Test here
4.4.11
21 Keys to Financial Freedom and Abundant Health
• Invest in yourself – use your time, talent and skills to develop YOU!
• Invest in projects and people that you admire and who are helping the world.
• Give to others – even if you aren’t prosperous – giving attracts more to YOU!
• Honor and value yourself – treat yourself with kindness and respect.
• Learn to trust the Universe – it always brings what we need on cue.
• Timing is everything. Be aware of the Universe’s timing – not your timing.
• Stay open to opportunities.
• The next step is always delivered – right to your door – be alert.
• Opportunities may present themselves once and may not be repeated.
• Focus your money and your energy on your health first – not your wealth.
• Save some money – always have a little cushion for a rainy day
• Pay off credit cards at the end of every month.
• Before making any purchase, ask the question, “Is this purchase necessary”
• Be creative – make things, cards or gifts – they are from the heart.
• Meditate – creative ideas flow in when the mind is quiet.
• Eat protein at every meal – this keeps energy up and blood sugar balanced
• Fat in the diet promotes brain function, joint lubrication and healthy skin.
• Deepen your spiritual connection. You and the Divine are a formidable team.
• Smile – it lifts your face and your spirits and everyone else’s too!
• Be happy – this is your purpose – it fills the world with joy.
• Visualize the future you want and then surrender to the unfolding process of life.
• Invest in projects and people that you admire and who are helping the world.
• Give to others – even if you aren’t prosperous – giving attracts more to YOU!
• Honor and value yourself – treat yourself with kindness and respect.
• Learn to trust the Universe – it always brings what we need on cue.
• Timing is everything. Be aware of the Universe’s timing – not your timing.
• Stay open to opportunities.
• The next step is always delivered – right to your door – be alert.
• Opportunities may present themselves once and may not be repeated.
• Focus your money and your energy on your health first – not your wealth.
• Save some money – always have a little cushion for a rainy day
• Pay off credit cards at the end of every month.
• Before making any purchase, ask the question, “Is this purchase necessary”
• Be creative – make things, cards or gifts – they are from the heart.
• Meditate – creative ideas flow in when the mind is quiet.
• Eat protein at every meal – this keeps energy up and blood sugar balanced
• Fat in the diet promotes brain function, joint lubrication and healthy skin.
• Deepen your spiritual connection. You and the Divine are a formidable team.
• Smile – it lifts your face and your spirits and everyone else’s too!
• Be happy – this is your purpose – it fills the world with joy.
• Visualize the future you want and then surrender to the unfolding process of life.
16.1.11
For women :To Boost Irresistability
I had this article I liked it ..I do not have the Info about the Source now ..
1. Live in the Here and Now.
Now is where it’s at, baby. The past is over and the future is fiction. The secret to being authentically irresistible is to train yourself to live fully in the present moment. Make it your #1 priority to strengthen your “in the moment” muscles!
2. Be Ballsy.
Irresistible babes make bold, ballsy moves. Forget what other people think. This is YOUR life. You’ve got one shot on the merry-go-round. You might as well go for what you want! You are here for a reason and your dreams are meant to come true. Grow a set (figuratively, of course) and go for what you want.
3. Don’t Take ANYTHING Too Seriously.
Truth? We all wind up dead. In 100 years, whatever you get yourself upset over now really won’t matter. Have a sense of humor about yourself and your life. Lightheartedness is the juice that keeps you grounded in the irresistible zone. Fun is a choice. Make it daily!
4. Be a Complaint-Free Zone.
Many women spend more time complaining about men than actually dating them! Want to turbo boost your irresistibility factor? Be a complaint free zone. That means no complaining about the weather, your job, your body or anything else – whether aloud or in your thoughts.
5. Make Love Not War.
Do you make male bashing jokes? Ever consider “men” the enemy? One BIG stumbling block to irresistibility is being a secret (or not so secret) man-hater. The battle of the sexes acts like poison to women’s irresistibility. Fast fix? Drop it. When it comes to your relationship with the male gender – be sure to make love, not war.
6. Chuck The Rules
When it comes to dating and relationships, I say rules, shmules. Most relationship rules are either someone else’s truth that you’ve adopted as your own OR they’re an old decision you made in the past when you were upset. Either way, rules pollute the present moment with obsolete information from our past. Know this: you can break every rule in the book when you are centered, clear and in touch with your authentic irresistibility.
7. Ignite Your Naughty Factor
In the midst of our busy, fast-paced lives, women’s sex lives can often take a back seat. It’s essential for our spiritual and emotional well-being to keep our “sexy” in shape. The way to wake up our sensual irresistibility is to proactively ignite our naughty factor. Take a pole dancing class, wear sassy underwear to work, or buy some erotic fiction. Find ways to strengthen your naughty muscles and stay in irresistible sexual shape.
This Article is not mine :I do not have the source right now Sorry
But I liked It so sharing here
1. Live in the Here and Now.
Now is where it’s at, baby. The past is over and the future is fiction. The secret to being authentically irresistible is to train yourself to live fully in the present moment. Make it your #1 priority to strengthen your “in the moment” muscles!
2. Be Ballsy.
Irresistible babes make bold, ballsy moves. Forget what other people think. This is YOUR life. You’ve got one shot on the merry-go-round. You might as well go for what you want! You are here for a reason and your dreams are meant to come true. Grow a set (figuratively, of course) and go for what you want.
3. Don’t Take ANYTHING Too Seriously.
Truth? We all wind up dead. In 100 years, whatever you get yourself upset over now really won’t matter. Have a sense of humor about yourself and your life. Lightheartedness is the juice that keeps you grounded in the irresistible zone. Fun is a choice. Make it daily!
4. Be a Complaint-Free Zone.
Many women spend more time complaining about men than actually dating them! Want to turbo boost your irresistibility factor? Be a complaint free zone. That means no complaining about the weather, your job, your body or anything else – whether aloud or in your thoughts.
5. Make Love Not War.
Do you make male bashing jokes? Ever consider “men” the enemy? One BIG stumbling block to irresistibility is being a secret (or not so secret) man-hater. The battle of the sexes acts like poison to women’s irresistibility. Fast fix? Drop it. When it comes to your relationship with the male gender – be sure to make love, not war.
6. Chuck The Rules
When it comes to dating and relationships, I say rules, shmules. Most relationship rules are either someone else’s truth that you’ve adopted as your own OR they’re an old decision you made in the past when you were upset. Either way, rules pollute the present moment with obsolete information from our past. Know this: you can break every rule in the book when you are centered, clear and in touch with your authentic irresistibility.
7. Ignite Your Naughty Factor
In the midst of our busy, fast-paced lives, women’s sex lives can often take a back seat. It’s essential for our spiritual and emotional well-being to keep our “sexy” in shape. The way to wake up our sensual irresistibility is to proactively ignite our naughty factor. Take a pole dancing class, wear sassy underwear to work, or buy some erotic fiction. Find ways to strengthen your naughty muscles and stay in irresistible sexual shape.
This Article is not mine :I do not have the source right now Sorry
But I liked It so sharing here
8.1.11
GOOD STUFF
We have started with new year 2011...We can surely start it with some practical Good stuff Steps ...
Be picky. Have high standards. Don’t settle for less. These are all messages that, when used appropriately, help people to live better lives. As you start your New Year, I want to invite you to be picky about something in particular – your mind. If you really want to make this year a year filled with self-love, self-acceptance, forward movement, and success, then decide right now that you’ll do everything in your power to fill that beautiful mind of yours with good stuff – really good stuff.
No more reading boring emails that might have something in it you need to see, or watching violent news that leaves you feeling helpless or afraid. Forget about the celebrity sightings that make you feel like everyone else is living a great life but you. Nope. No good. Not enough for you anymore.
Stop listening to the latest drama story at work or to the friend who’s been complaining about the same damn thing for years. Ugh. It’s exhausting and it’s creating a neural pathway that leads to nowheresville.
It’s time to be picky – really picky.
This year, resolve to do things that fill your mind with exciting new ideas, inspirational messages that motivate you to act, or wisdom that touches your soul in the best of all ways.
Try this…
Read – Take a good book like Creative Flowdreaming
or like Traveling at the Speed of Love
out to lunch rather than the co-worker who’s made “woe is me” his or her personal motto for life. Keep an inspirational book by your bed or in the bathroom and use daily routines like waking up or going to sleep as opportunities for “feel-good” breaks.
Watch – Trade in the latest reality “debacle” show and tune into Oprah’s network – the OWN channel – and watch a new standard for television being created before your very eyes. (You can find the channel in your area by visiting here)
Listen – Listen to Hay House Radio
online (or on your iPhone) and discover a new kind of radio network that not only fills your mind with good stuff, but also gives you a chance to get advice from authors and experts for free. You can find it here.
Connect – Decide to take a workshop, attend a lecture, or enroll in a course that will stretch you, inspire you, and connect you with like-minded people whose good stuff will rub off on you. (Mom was right – you do become the people you hang around with )
you can read or have or use some good stuff ....It might be one of Books like The Art of Extreme Self Care
or card decks like The Law Of Attraction Cards, 60-Card Deck
, a CD ( ), a DVD ( eg. Body at Home™ DVD
or Getting Into the Vortex DVD
), an invitation to a workshop or conference, or a personal note of inspiration from some personal favorite /newsletter , to help keep you on track.
A good life starts with good thoughts. Make the one resolution that will really change your life – “This year I’m all about the good stuff!”
Happy New Year!
courtesy : Cheryl Richardson
Be picky. Have high standards. Don’t settle for less. These are all messages that, when used appropriately, help people to live better lives. As you start your New Year, I want to invite you to be picky about something in particular – your mind. If you really want to make this year a year filled with self-love, self-acceptance, forward movement, and success, then decide right now that you’ll do everything in your power to fill that beautiful mind of yours with good stuff – really good stuff.
No more reading boring emails that might have something in it you need to see, or watching violent news that leaves you feeling helpless or afraid. Forget about the celebrity sightings that make you feel like everyone else is living a great life but you. Nope. No good. Not enough for you anymore.
Stop listening to the latest drama story at work or to the friend who’s been complaining about the same damn thing for years. Ugh. It’s exhausting and it’s creating a neural pathway that leads to nowheresville.
It’s time to be picky – really picky.
This year, resolve to do things that fill your mind with exciting new ideas, inspirational messages that motivate you to act, or wisdom that touches your soul in the best of all ways.
Try this…
Read – Take a good book like Creative Flowdreaming
or like Traveling at the Speed of Love out to lunch rather than the co-worker who’s made “woe is me” his or her personal motto for life. Keep an inspirational book by your bed or in the bathroom and use daily routines like waking up or going to sleep as opportunities for “feel-good” breaks.Watch – Trade in the latest reality “debacle” show and tune into Oprah’s network – the OWN channel – and watch a new standard for television being created before your very eyes. (You can find the channel in your area by visiting here)
Listen – Listen to Hay House Radio
online (or on your iPhone) and discover a new kind of radio network that not only fills your mind with good stuff, but also gives you a chance to get advice from authors and experts for free. You can find it here.Connect – Decide to take a workshop, attend a lecture, or enroll in a course that will stretch you, inspire you, and connect you with like-minded people whose good stuff will rub off on you. (Mom was right – you do become the people you hang around with )
you can read or have or use some good stuff ....It might be one of Books like The Art of Extreme Self Care
or card decks like The Law Of Attraction Cards, 60-Card Deck , a CD ( ), a DVD ( eg. Body at Home™ DVD or Getting Into the Vortex DVD), an invitation to a workshop or conference, or a personal note of inspiration from some personal favorite /newsletter , to help keep you on track.A good life starts with good thoughts. Make the one resolution that will really change your life – “This year I’m all about the good stuff!”
Happy New Year!
courtesy : Cheryl Richardson
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